“A mighty pain to love it is,
And 'tis a pain that pain to miss;
But of all pains, the greatest pain
It is to love, but love in vain.”
Abraham Cowley
Why do we do it? We always want what we can't have. The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. I have been throwing around the idea of creating a character that is involved in a one sided relationship. She can't see the beauty of her true love because she is in love with someone who doesn't love her back.
There are many poems on the subject. Greek and Roman myths have been made about the topic. Many novels and classics were written about it.
Unrequited Love
“Love, unrequited, robs me of my rest:
Love, hopeless love, my ardent soul encumbers:
Love, nightmare-like, lies heavy on my chest,
And weaves itself into my midnight slumbers!”
William S. Gilbert
Have you ever been in love with someone who doesn't return the same feelings? Or was it reversed. Did someone love you, but you could't love them back? I'm sure most people have been in both situations.
I am not talking about my internal love affair with Brad Pitt. Let's be honest. How could Brad possibly love me back when we've never met? He doesn't know I even exist. No, I'm taliking about true unrequitted love. The type where there might be a chance for love but the feelings aren't recipricated.
Look at some of the classics about unrequited love:
Cyrano de Bergerac-Cyrano loves Roxanne but only from afar. His looks won't allow him to get closer.
The Phantom of the Opera-The phantom loves Christine. But again he is disfugured. She is in love with another.
Hunchback of Notre Dame-Quasimodo loves the sweet and beautiful Esmeralda.
Wuthering Heights-Heathcliff and Catherine grow up together. But they come from different worlds. Catherine can never be with Heathcliff because it would be beneath her to marry him.
There seems to be a running theme in each of these stories: The men love the beautiful women, but the love is not returned. The men are disfigured, or not worthy enough for the women.
It also begs the question: Do men love more romantically than women? I don't think so. It will be interesting to create a female character that loves someone who doesn't love her back.